Sexy Girls Chapter 3 and 4

Chapter 3: Is Your Closet Too Hot?

This chapter starts out by attempting to gross out teen girls by telling them that if they dress immodestly, it is not only young men that will lust after them, but creepy old dudes, including the preacher.

"If you walk down the street and see a bench lined with 70-year-old men, they are looking at your breasts and smacking their lips....Just think about the poor pastor who has to stand in front of his congregation and talk about God while trying to avoid seeing your breasts popping out from your baby doll top"

I think it's rather telling that this woman feels like she has to say this. It's quite a bit of privilege to assume that her readers have never been street-harassed before.

Dimarco expands on the "menu"and "advertising" framing more and more. Bare midriffs apparently advertise that you are ready to have your belly touched and you're a "tease" if you're not up for it. Also, any advances or harassment you get is deserved because

"Don't blame them for your PR campaign...they're just hoping to get a chance to purchase or steal a piece of you."

This ideology dehumanizes males as predators and females as prey and objects. The use of "steal" in this line tells us what Dimarco would think of rape victim-blaming.

"We can't get mad at guys for being guys. We can't blame them for following us down the path of objectification when that's the package we've put together."

Holy Hell!!! Does this woman think dudes have ANY responsibility for anything? If what she said was true, we would need to lock up all the men! This is the kind of shit that MRAs put in the mouths of feminists.


After a suitable round of shaming and blaming, Dimarco brings up Ephesians 5:3 and how there shouldn't be "even a hint of sexual immorality" among us. She also opines on how self-esteem is fleeting, but "god-esteem" is the foundation of a healthy self-image.


Chapter 4: The Art of the Body

This chapter is about tattoos and piercings. Interestingly, she is not wholly against them as a matter of biblical principle, but her restrictions on how you shouldn't show your navel piercing or lower back tattoo pretty act as blanket prohibitions. Her menu metaphor is stretched as she likens these piercings and tattoos to the "best-seller" icons on a menu.

Her worst ire is reserved for the blatantly sexual tongue ring, though she stops short of saying oral sex, using the euphemism of guys imagining how it will feel "on their body."

Girls who get tongue rings:

"Don't expect your romantic dreams to come true...to make yourself a sexual object is to kill a part of you that was created expressly for relationship."

Yes, tongue rings will make you into a spinster or some sort of loveless robot!

"God didn't create you to be some boy's toy. He didn't create you to meet the sexual needs of random guys...he made you for one man and one man only, and that man won't be too happy to know that you shared yourself with other men just to get the feeling of being loved." 

How dare you act as a sex object for multiple men, you're a sex object for  just for ONE MAN! Because that's so much better. And again, complete erasure of female sexual desire, because women trade sex for love...

Sexy Girls: Chapter 1 and 2

I have a habit of picking up terrible Christian books in thrift stores, and that's how I came across Sexy Girls: How Hot is Too Hot?

It's truly an abomination of slut-shaming, made worse by being written in a "hip" and "cool" slang-loaded fashion. The book itself also has weird thick, glossy pages and layout, with far more pictures than content. The spine is also weak, the pages started falling out when I simply flattened the book for pictures. Many of the pages are single-quote pages, often from youth pastors like this first one:

"It's hard to speak to your hearts when all I see is your parts."

That's one of those glorious preacher quotes with a rhyme that ultimately means nothing.


Dimarco opens chapter 1 with an anecdote about being turned away from 1st grade because of a crop top and shorts. She obviously internalized this message of shame and went on to perpetuate it in a big way.

Dimarco then brings in the concepts of advertising yourself, your image, and marketing. She even has little self-tests for you to take:

Chapter 2:Your Target Market

She has little quizzes here too:

I didn't even try to take this quiz because all these answers are crap.

Chapter 2 wants is to consider our "target audience", guys. 

"Don't get all feminazi on me now and start saying you aren't looking for a guy, because if you picked up this book, then you must be concerned about your sex appeal, and sex appeal is for one purpose and one purpose only: to get guys."

I like the unironic use of feminazi and the complete erasure of queerness. That's pretty par for the course. She goes on to talk about how girls just want to dress cute, but we just have to think about those "hormone-crazed" guys. It is here that she first uses the objectifying term "menu" to talk about what women show.

"It might seem gross, juvenile, or impossible that a guy would want to touch your breast just because he can see a part of it, but trust me, it's true."

Newsflash! He probably wants to touch it even if he can't see it! And why would it necessarily seem gross unless you're assuming that women don't have sexual desire?

She then goes on to construct scenarios where showing a bit of breast leads to more and more fantasy, how showing belly leads to more, and how you need to cover up so that boys won't fantasize about you. The fact is that you can't stop anyone from fantasizing about you no matter what you wear, and I don't believe in the Christian "stumbling block" rhetoric.

She then goes on to spend a whole page on underwear. She says that if a boy sees part of your underwear, he'll think that you'll be willing to show him all of it, and then you'll be "sexual" to him and garner no respect:

"Guys don't take sexual girls seriously. They just don't. They think about using them until their next conquest."

Really? Men can't have real relationships with women they have sex with? That's news to pretty much everyone. And if dudes are this awful, why do you want them? That is the eternal question, unanswered in the first 2 chapters.