Tuesday, October 13, 2015

Does Abortion "demean" women?

Does abortion demean women? Lie Action News seems to think so. Author Kevin Kukla points out 4 ways he thinks it does.

1. Abortion Negates Women’s Unique Sexuality
"...The entire purpose of the radical feminist movement was to “liberate” women from their biology.  This was supposed to “free” them from carrying the burden of sexual activity (i.e., childbearing).
In place of celebrating an obvious trait women possess in being capable of bearing children, abortion advocacy seeks to rid it from society.  Abortion seeks to eliminate women’s creative powers.
How is that empowering to women?"
Here we see the typical anti-choice lack of understanding of the concept of CONSENT and CHOICE. Procreation is only empowering if it is chosen. Neither forced pregnancy continuation or forced abortion is empowering. It is possible for society to celebrate the choice of procreation and abortion simultaneously or at least to not prohibit abortion.

 2. Abortion Forces Women to Choose to Sacrifice Family for a Career
Childrearing would just get in the way, virtually every woman is told by society.  No young woman is expected to desire to get married and start a family quickly.  Rather, each woman is expected to establish herself in the workforce and to postpone family aspirations until later in life.
 Indeed, societal pressure on women asks them to sacrifice marriage and family for a career.  Pop culture has painted a narrative telling young women domestic life is less than ideal.  Or worse yet, it tells them domestic life is no good.  The better thing to do with your life is to go earn big bucks in the corporate world."

Ok, I will actually agree here! Work-life balance is a huge feminist issue. Feminists have championed maternity leave, the pregnancy discrimination act and other accommodations. We need to change the idea of the male-default career path and the expectation that workers have a stay-at-home partner.

What does this have to do with abortion? When abortion was outlawed, did we accommodate parenthood better? NO! The accommodation of mothers in the workplace has only gotten better since Roe. Having the OPTION of abortion on the table doesn't have any impact on what society does about having babies and working.


 3. Abortion Helps Men to Exploit Women
Thanks to the advent of the birth control pill and contraception, sex has turned into a recreational activity.  Men and women engage in it, while floating in and out of relationships.  Both sexes use each other in the promiscuous lifestyle made possible by birth control."

And here it is, the sexphobia always underlying anti-choice discourse! Sex has ALWAYS been a recreational activity. Consensual Sex is NOT "using" each other.


 "Having enjoyed sexual relations without the worry of fathering an unwanted child, some men lose their minds when they learn they got a woman pregnant.
Such men may threaten to leave their pregnant women altogether, unless they procure an abortion.  Women can be caught in this dilemma if they wish to keep their babies."
Because that NEVER happened before legal abortion? Why are anti-choicers so enamored of shotgun weddings? Shotgun weddings were never fully enforceable and they caused abject misery.

Rather than helping women to fulfill their creative potential, abortion allows men to manipulate women into squashing it."

Notice the lack of agency of the woman. She can't possibly not want babies, right, it's all the man's fault. Notice also the demonization of men who don't want to be fathers. While coercion and abuse are wrong, it is not wrong for a man not be thrilled that he has sired a child he doesn't want. It is not wrong for him to want sex without babies, just as it isn't for women to want that.

 4. Abortion Keeps Women Socioeconomically Downtrodden
That is all an abortion-supportive society can muster for a woman who faces a difficult pregnancy.  This “quick fix” does absolutely nothing to alleviate her socioeconomic circumstances that led her to consider an abortion in the first place.
Getting an abortion does not earn her a job to pay the bills.  Having her baby dismembered in her womb doesn’t put gas in the car or food on the table.  It certainly won’t award her free rent for an apartment, when she has no place to live.
No, all an abortion does is keep her in those difficult circumstances, but with a dead baby and lost motherhood to accompany her thenceforth."
I'll give him this, these are great points. Abortion does not fix all financial ills. We need to fix poverty in this country. I wish no one ever aborted a child they wanted to raise just because they were poor.

BUT HOW DOES MAKING ABORTION ILLEGAL FIX THIS???

We already didn't help single mothers when abortion was illegal and we don't help them now. Do anti-choicers rally think making abortion illegal will force us to deal with all these unwanted poor children? I'd imagine we'd make some stopgap measures so they wouldn't be dying in the streets, but children would suffer in the meantime, if not long-term.

Kukla is trying to make abortion something it is not. Abortion is ending a pregnancy. It is not, and never was, floated as a all-purpose solution. You cannot hold abortion up to these unfair standards and pronounce that it doesn't work, so we should make it illegal.

So, NO, abortion does not demean women. Denying them freedom and agency does.

7 comments:

  1. Because going backwards in time to when women had fewer rights and freedoms somehow empowers them?

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  2. What demeans women is telling them that, despite a complete lack of knowledge of her circumstances, you know what's best for her better than she does.

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  4. You nailed it.

    Ah, yeah, the good old days when abortion was illegal, and...

    Women chose between dangerous back alley abortions and having babies they didn’t want, unless they were trying for a child.
    Women didn’t have to choose between family and career, because “careers” didn’t exist for women.
    Women were told sex was not something to enjoy, but to oblige their husbands.
    Women were still abandoned by men who’d contributed to their pregnancy, or got to marry a man simply due to a pregnancy.
    Women had to stay with men to avoid poverty, because they weren’t able to support themselves.
    Women who had children and no husband didn’t do well at all.
    Women were shipped off to their “aunt’s” for a year-long visit, and came back to live in communities where their reputations were destroyed because everyone knew they had sex—and women just did NOT have sex and get away with it.

    Yep. When abortion was illegal, the world was such a better place.

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  5. This may just be anecdata, but my experience demonstrates that the opposite of #2 is true. That motherhood and marriage is EXPECTED and you are sick or selfish if you do neither. That your career should take a back seat to your involvement in marriage and parenting. Those are the things I was taught. The pressures that I feel as a working mother, the breadwinner for my family are very much intense, too.

    But people pretending to know more of what I can/can''t handle than me when I clearly state I want no more children, period, regardless of the sex/gender of the children that I have just infuriate me. That is very demeaning of my own wants in my own life.

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  6. Abortion is an extremely difficult decision. For some women it might be demeaning because it could cause them to feel inadequate. I get that.

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